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The Refinery – Candles That Give Back

For you, O God, tested us; you refined us like silver.

The Refinery Soy Candles - We Seek to be a Light in our Community | Oysters & Pearls

Psalm 66:10 accompanies every candle sold by The Refinery in Bainbridge, Georgia, and is the basis for much, much more than a candle company.

The Refinery Soy Candles, Hand Poured in Bainbridge, Georgia | Oysters & Pearls

The Refinery is a branch of Friends Ministries, along with the Friendship House and the Still Waters Shelter.  The candles from The Refinery are hand poured by the women of the Still Waters Shelter, and 100% of the proceeds go back to Still Waters.

The Refinery Soy Candles - With this light I Offer Grace | Oysters & Pearls

The 16 ounce candles created at The Refinery are high end, selling for $20 each.  The candles are made of pure white soy wax, organic cotton wicks and twine, and aluminum tags.  The scents are clean and fresh.  The supplies are purchased with a focus on eco-friendly and regionally or locally sourced products.  The tags are made from recycled aluminum cans and hand stamped.   All of these things make a purchase from The Refinery a worthy one.  But I wanted the whole story.

So I went to The Refinery, met the ladies, and saw the process.  And it’s a story I want to share with you all.

The Refinery Soy Candles - With This Light I Believe   | Oysters & Pearls

The Refinery was started back in November of last year (2013).  Jessica Grace Allen, the brains, heart, soul, and marketing guru behind the operation, took me on a tour last week.  Pictured above is the first iteration of The Refinery’s candle.  The brass tags weren’t meant to be, but the business has flourished.

Jessica explains the mission of The Refinery, “We believe that change is a process, very similar to that of creating a candle. We, like our candles, are imperfect, prone to rough edges and full of potential.”

The Refinery Soy Candles  | Oysters & Pearls

The Still Waters Shelter provides homeless women and their children with a safe, faith-based space to stay for 90 days.  But Jessica couldn’t help but think about what happens after the ninety days were up.  In a small, rural town like Bainbridge, job opportunities are limited, to say the least.  The cycle of poverty is harsh, and Jessica wanted to help the women staying at Still Waters get a leg up.  So Jessica, with the help of Friends Ministries, formed The Refinery as a means to that end – a way to teach the women important life skills and give them a sense of value and self-worth, all while providing income to Still Waters.  The women at Still Waters work at The Refinery two days a week, while using the rest of the week to search for employment elsewhere.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Jeremiah | Oysters & Pearls

Jeremiah 29:11, pictured above, is displayed prominently at The Refinery, and the verse sums up their mission perfectly.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  

The Refinery Soy Candles - Original Formula Notebook | Oysters & Pearls

Using a plethora of fragrances and through much trial and error, the women of The Refinery have come up with some amazing candle scents.  Their signature “Still Waters” scent burns in my kitchen daily.  Front Porch Breeze, a smell that instantly takes me to summer time, is another personal favorite.  There are also seasonal scents, like South Georgia favorite, “Pecan Pie,” and their newest scent, “River Days.”

The Refinery Soy Candles - Pecan Pie Sample Candles | Oysters & Pearls

The Refinery’s scents all seem to evoke a memory, as smell so often does, or are named after regional phrases.

The Refinery Soy Candles - River Days Scent | Oysters & Pearls

The Refinery Soy Candles - Southern Belle Scent | Oysters & Pearls

The smaller candles pictured are samples for the local retailers carrying The Refinery candles.  The diminutive size also makes them a very special wedding favor, for the South Georgia brides out there!

The Refinery Soy Candles - Basket of Sample Candles | Oysters & Pearls

I didn’t want to just see the candles though, I wanted to meet the ladies and watch them work.  The candle making process starts with gluing the cotton wicks by hand to the bottom of each glass votive.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Ready to Be Filled | Oysters & Pearls

Next, high quality white soy wax is melted, fragrance is added, and the scented wax is poured into the votives.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Pure White Soy Wax | Oysters & Pearls

This process involves more math than one might realize.  These calculations require skills that translate far beyond candle-making.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Instructions | Oysters & Pearls

The candles are then cooled and checked for imperfections, teaching lessons in quality control.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Unfinished Candles | Oysters & Pearls

Once cool, rims are wiped, wicks are trimmed, and the candles are ready for packaging.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Recycling Cans into Tags | Oysters & Pearls

Recycled aluminum cans are cut by hand and eight tags are punched from the resulting small sheet of aluminum.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Punching Tags out of Recycled Soda Cans | Oysters & Pearls

The Refinery Soy Candles - Tags Punched from a Sprite Can | Oysters & Pearls

I watched as one of the ladies used a steel brush to remove the paint from the small discs of aluminum.  She had almost completely removed all traces of “Sprite,” when Jessica told her that it “looked good.”  She continued brushing without looking up.  “It has to be pure, like the candles.”

The Refinery Soy Candles - Brushing the Paint off the Cans for Tags | Oysters & Pearls

Next, “REFINERY” is painstakingly hand stamped, letter by letter, across the center of each tag.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Each Recycled Aluminum Tag is Hand Stamped | Oysters & Pearls

The woman hand-stamping the tags last Thursday had never done the stamping before that morning.  She confessed that she had been very nervous.  “I want it to be perfect.  I was so scared I would mess them up!”

It’s obvious that these women take great pride in what they are doing and the product they are creating.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Recycled Aluminum Tags Being Hand Stamped | Oysters & Pearls

After tags are stamped, holes are punched in the top of each one.  By hand, of course.

The Refinery Soy Candles - Hole Punching Recycled Aluminum Tags | Oysters & Pearls

The Refinery Soy Candles - Candle Tags | Oysters & Pearls

Organic cotton twine is run through each tag and around each candle, and a label is placed around the wick.

The Refinery Soy Candle | Oysters & Pearls

The ladies at The Refinery began selling these candles just prior to Christmas 2013.  Over their initial holiday season, they sold over 200 candles.  Their candles are now available in many local retailers, who cannot keep the candles in stock.  The women of The Refinery happily scramble to keep up with the demand.

The Refinery Soy Candles - 20 dollars | Oysters & Pearls

Although she wants to continue to grow the business, Jessica stresses that she doesn’t want to grow too quickly.  “The process of making the candles is so important to these women’s journeys.  We don’t want to rush it.  These candles are worth the wait.”

I have to agree.  I shot Jessica a quick text to thank her for the tour, for introducing me to the ladies of The Refinery, and to let her know how moving it was for me.  Her response?

Thank you for coming by, it made the ladies “feel like we’re important.”

The Refinery Soy Candles - The Little Light | Oysters & Pearls

The Refinery Soy Candles, Handmade in Bainbridge, Georgia | Oysters & Pearls

If you’re interested in purchasing your own candle from The Refinery, you can find them at:

Grimsley’s Pharmacy
Bella’s Boutique
Southern Trading Company
Bainbridge Pharmacy
Reeve’s Linens & Gifts

  You can also email therefineryga@gmail.com for inquiries.  The Refinery hopes to be up and running online as soon as time, funding, and ability allows.

Until then, you can follow along with them @therefineryga on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.

How you can help:

1) Purchase a candle from one of the retailers above!  Or email therefineryga@gmail.com or let me know (oystersandpearlsblog@gmail.com).  I can be a delivery vehicle all the way to Thomasville.

2) Save your small glass jars!  While The Refinery purchases the large 16 ounce candle votives, their sample candles are made with recycled baby food and other similarly sized jars.  You can ship them, drop them by, or I can pick them up from you.  Just shoot me an email at oystersandpearlsblog@gmail.com and we can arrange a pickup time and place.

3) Donate!  Visit The Still Waters Shelter website or The Refinery’s new website for more information, or email therefineryga@gmail.com for more ways you can help (monetarily or otherwise).

Until Next Time

Fall Garden Update

As I mentioned yesterday, it’s been ages since I updated you on our little victory garden!  We started almost everything from plants this time (purchased last minute at Home Depot) back in early September.  A few things we did start ourselves from seed, and those seem to be doing the best, with the exception of our butter and red lettuces.  Anyway, let’s hop to the pictures.

Our purple flash pepper from Home Depot is doing pretty well, and adds some pretty purple color to the front raised bed.  It’s an ornamental pepper, and is edible, but we haven’t tasted it to determine if it’s delicious or not.  It’s just really pretty!

Purple Flash Pepper Plant | Oysters & Pearls

On the other corner of the front bed, we planted another pepper.  I can’t even remember what kind it was (also from Home Depot) but I’m just going to label it firmly within the Epic Pepper Fail variety.

Epic Pepper Fail | Oysters & Pearls

In this same front bed, we also have some cabbage that is absolutely nothing to write home about.

October Cabbage | Oysters & Pearls

But hey, at least it’s not dead or ridden with critters.

Also in this bed is our little corner of lettuce Heaven.

October Butter Lettuce | Oysters & Pearls

We have butter lettuce (above) and red lettuce (below).  Both are doing really well, and we are thoroughly enjoying our salads.

October Red Lettuce | Oysters & Pearls

In raised bed number two, we have a few tomato plants we started from seed what seems like AGES ago.


October Roma Tomato | Oysters & Pearls


October Cherry Tomatoes | Oysters & Pearls

And a brave little Cherokee Purple Tomato (yep, just the one):

October Cherokee Purple Tomato | Oysters & Pearls

It’s definitely no summer crop. :(  And I’m worried that a frost is going to get them before they ripen, so these may get fried as-is.

Also in Bed 2: very colorful bell peppers!  We have green, yellow (really more of a white), and PURPLE!  These are actually ones we started from seed back in the Spring that are really just now getting going.

October Yellow Bell Pepper | Oysters & Pearls October Purple Bell Pepper | Oysters & Pearls

Also in Bed 2 are our jalapeño peppers we planted from seed back in mid-Summer.  They are really started to take off this month.

October Jalapenos | Oysters & Pearls

And rounding out Bed 2 is our lovely crop of spinach.

October Spinach | Oysters & Pearls


Actually, we have been using Sevin Dust on them periodically, because something thinks our spinach is really, really tasty.  I wouldn’t know.  But a couple of the plants give me a glimmer of hope.

October Spinach |  Oysters & Pearls

In back Bed number 3, we have a steady crop of okra that we harvest daily!

Below are okra pods of varying stages of development on a single stalk.

Okra Pods At Various Stages of Development | Oysters & Pearls

Here’s one that’s just about to turn into an okra pod:

Okra Blossom Turning Into Okra Pod | Oysters & Pearls

The ants and other bugs LOVE the okra blossoms.  They must have some serious sweets inside.  I got to thinking this summer that the okra blossoms really looked like cotton blossoms, and they both looked a whole lot like hibiscus blooms.  After some thorough Wikipedia-ing, I discovered it’s because they’re all related!

Okra Blossom | Oysters & Pearls

Anyway, okra blooms are really, really pretty, and I love having them in the yard.  And then having okra.

Finishing up the raised beds, we have some very, very sad collard greens.  Looks like I’ll still be buying those this winter.

Very Sad October Collards | Oysters & Pearls

That’s it for the raised beds.  For more info on how we built ’em, {click here} and {here}.

We still pick a loner strawberry every now and then, too.  They are in pots, but maybe at some point they will get transplanted into the ground.  They berries never get very big though, so I’m not sure it’s worth it.

Tiny October Strawberry | Oysters & Pearls

And moving on over to the herb garden around the patio, I planted some Faulkenberry-Beaver wedding favor mint in the herb garden a couple evenings ago!

Wedding Favor Mint | Oysters & Pearls

The wedding favors were little burlap bags containing a tiny mint plant and a little bottle of Jim Beam, along with an adorable recipe for a pitcher of mint juleps.  It was precious!  I ended up with a couple of leftovers the wedding planner handed to me at the end of the night (we shutter down).  So I planted three in my little herb garden.  Hopefully we’ll be drinking lots of mint juleps and remembering what a good time we had at the Beaver’s wedding for a long time to come. :)

You’ll note the moss surrounding the plants.  This area is where the water ends up settling when it runs off our patio, so I figured it would be the perfect spot for water-loving mint.  Only time will tell, though.  I’m excellent at murdering mint, which is supposedly practically invincible.  I call it the Titanic of the herb garden.


How Do You Keep Cats Out Of Flower Beds? | Oysters & Pearls

Wallace seriously won’t leave a flower bed alone.  Sometimes he uses them as his litter box… sometimes he just rolls around and plays with stuff and a lot of the time he just lays in them, like he’s doing in this picture.  It’s so weird.  And annoying.  Any tips? Help!

Here’s a tip for you: wash your homegrown lettuce really well.  I recommend dumping all your freshly picked lettuce in the sink and washing it one leaf at a time, then drying in a salad spinner.  Because no matter how carefully you pick your lettuce, you still might bring one of these into your kitchen.

Snail Snuck In With The Lettuce | Oysters & Pearls

Yup, that bad boy crawled out of my sink from some lettuce I picked a couple nights ago.  Pretty sure this is where George Lucas got Jabba the Hutt (Jabadahut?) from.

I’ve been making a delicious salad with these greens (besides the Shrimp salad I posted about earlier this week.

Fresh homegrown lettuce (sans snail), homegrown bell pepper, and whatever other veggies we have in the house at the time, topped with Canned Sand Pears, shaved Thomasville Tomme from Sweet Grass Dairy, and Maggie’s honey mustard vinaigrette.

Homegrown Salad with Pears and Honey Mustard Vinaigrette | Oysters & Pearls

Another side note: Sweet Grass Dairy’s new online store just opened a few days ago!  Now you can order their cheese, condiments, and all sorts of local foodie treats online at The Larder.  I die over their homepage.

Anyway, Maggie’s honey mustard vinaigrette is delicious, and is the same one she used on her brussel sprout slaw we had a couple weeks ago.

Maggie’s Honey Mustard Vinaigrette
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1 tablespoon grainy dijon mustard
3 tablespoons apple cider vinegar
2 teaspoons honey
2 tablespoons olive oil
kosher salt

Whisk ’em together.  Top things with it.  Delicious.

Fall Salad with Canned Sand Pears and Honey Mustard Vinaigrette | Oysters & Pearls

Sorry for that insanely long post!

If you’re a Bainbridge local, the Bainbridge Country Club is having a Fall Carnival tonight from 6:00-8:00 p.m.  It’s $10 for adults and $5 for kids (non-members) and I’d love to see you there!

Happy almost Friday!

And watch out for those snails.

Until Next Time